Fantasies of hot, rough caresses with elements of BDSM excite the minds of many couples, but all decide on frank experiments. Games with binding, domination can “shake up” the monotonous intimate life and create a special bond and trust between partners. In our article we have collected 10 best sex toys for these experiments. They are ideal for those who try such caresses for the first time. Chuck Rhoads with his wife Wendy Rhoades experimented a lot. Take a look on the accessories they used in their BDSM fantasies.
1. Handcuffs
Being an integral attribute of bondage and discipline, handcuffs are a popular and harmless way to bring “peppercorn” to bed entertainment and test your soulmate for obstinacy. The sight of a bound, shackled, helpless partner, the feeling of power over him, is a special pleasure. And both a man and a woman can be subordinate. But you can also try to change places!
How to use handcuffs in sex:
Limit your partner’s movements by chaining him to furniture and interior items.
Connect your partner’s limbs together using 2 pairs of handcuffs or special carabiners.
Experiment with bold sex poses by tying up your partner. Take inspiration from erotic movies.
For the most daring – join your hands with a partner in the manner of a police officer and a criminal from American militants. Go to a crowded place and enjoy the reaction of those who notice the “bracelets”.
Tips for using handcuffs. In the assortment of our store there are a variety of options for this toy for adults: made of leather, synthetic fabric, metal, silicone, with fur, chains. Beginners are advised to choose models with wide, soft cuffs, and do not tighten them tightly for the first time, so as not to injure the hands and not squeeze the vessels. For toys with a key lock, it is good to have a spare set of keys, which is stored in an accessible, reliable place. Never leave a shackled partner alone for long, even if it is part of a fantasy.
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2. Eye mask
This innocent accessory does not give away its belonging to the thematic culture. However, a simple blindfold can give an unusually sensual experience and embellish even the usual love scenarios. Vision is the most powerful channel of information perception. When it is deprived, the rest of the senses begin to work in full force.
How to use an eye mask:
During foreplay, tie your partner’s eyes, turn on relaxing music, gently caress him, feed him fruits and sweets. Taste, tactile, auditory sensations, in the absence of visual contact, are unusually acute.
Erotic massage blindly will bring a lot of frank experiences to the host. Play with different materials – touch your partner’s body with pieces of soft fabric, fur, feathers, try hot wax, massage oil and ice cubes.
When going directly to lovemaking, use a wider headband or headphones to limit the sounds from the outside.
Tips for using an eye mask. Special BDSM masks differ from accessories for sleeping in width, dense material, sealing rim at the edges. From the inside, it can have a different texture-sliding satin, delicate fur. During sensory deprivation of the partner, ensure constant contact, touch the body, not moving away for a minute, this will increase the sensations. Talking and touching will help maintain a trusting atmosphere of eroticism.
3. Flogger
A short soft whip with a large number of tails is ideal for starting the practice of whipping. The flogger is designed specifically for light impact. It is impossible for them (if not done purposefully) to cut the skin, cause severe pain. The flagging whip is great for warming up before using tougher devices. And it is also a subject for intimidation, sometimes it is simply demonstrated to frighten, and not to apply.
How to use a flogger:
This toy is one of its kind adjusts to a special way. Casually show your partner a flogger during normal caresses. Tell him what you’re going to do with the whip.
Run the ends of the tails over the skin of erogenous zones, tickle and lightly stroke them.
Diversify sex with the help of role-playing game scenarios that involve punishment. Come up with tasks, for failure to perform which is supposed to be flogged.
Do not hit for a long time in the same place. Use a brush with a flogger to describe the “eights” instead of using it in the manner of a fishing rod.
If you feel confident with the simplest flogger, tie knots at the ends of its tails (for intense pain) or buy a hard device.
Tips for using the flogger. The first experiments with flogging are best carried out in the company of a whip with soft, not very long (in order to avoid overflowing) tails without additional rivets, knots and crackers. Remember that the warm-up should start gradually and gently. Avoid blows to the back in the kidney area and near the face.
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4. Stack
An elegant accessory came to BDSM from jockeys. A flexible thin cane with a pommel in the form of a firecracker, tail or whip is used for point strikes. The stack gives a noticeable pain due to the small area of application of the entire force of the swing. Externally, such a rod looks exclusively decorative, but it is able to create an atmosphere of dominance and cause sweet experiences.
How to use the stack in sex:
Gently tease your partner’s erogenous zones by swiping them with the end of the stack.
Use the device for targeted flogging with the tip of the soft parts of the body – thighs, buttocks.
Blows can be applied to the entire length of the stack, using it as a rod. Hit from a short distance, comfortably laying the partner.
Many role-playing games and costumes are perfectly combined with this accessory. Invite your partner to try on the outfit of a strict mistress/master or teacher.
Tips for using the stack. Beginners are recommended to choose a stack with a pommel without metal rings, rivets. They are able, with uncertain handling, to cause injuries and cut the skin. Pay attention to the fact that the rod made of any material should be smooth, with processed edges. Stick and rods can not work on areas of the body where the tendons and bones are not covered with a layer of muscle.
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5. Gag
The attribute of submission and submission will appeal to those who are not ready to experience strong physical sensations. Devices for gagging produce various forms (the most popular – ball and bridle) of soft and semi-rigid materials (silicone, latex, rubber, plastic). Being in the mouth for a long time, the gag causes excessive salivation, which can also be an element of humiliation. The gag does not deprive a person of the ability to make sounds, it turns out to mumble, moan, but it is impossible to pronounce something clearly.
How to use a gag in a BDSM session:
Wear the classic version with a ball to your partner before spanking or sex. Enjoy his muffled moans.
A gag in the form of an expander ring is good for forcing oral sex. Carefully choose the size so that the erect penis does not get stuck inside the ring.
Bridle-snaffle suitable for pet play. Soft wide jumpers will protect the partner’s tongue from biting during intense pain (flogging, temperature, punctures).
Numerous variants of gags with a dildo attachment can create a feeling of double penetration.
Tips for using a gag. Choose not the largest option available in the store. A large object in the mouth can injure the teeth, the corners of the lips, it is more difficult to hold it for a long time. Make sure that the gag does not interfere with normal breathing – beginners are better off buying perforated models. Using the expander, do not lay your partner on his back. In this position, he can easily choke on saliva.
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6. Nipple clamps
A versatile accessory for men and women looks piquant on the body and excites the senses. The choice is huge-clamps with vibration, suspensions (in the form of brushes, bells, rhinestones), weights, pumps and chains. Clamps are able to awaken sleeping erogenous zones on the chest, they adorn the body during an erotic dance.
How to use Nipple Clamps:
Wear miniature accessories under your clothes and show them to your partner.
Vibro-clamps reveal the receptivity of the breast. Use them during lovemaking.
Vary the degree of compression of the nipples by loosening or tightening the adjustment screw.
Clips with rings are connected to handcuffs or a collar by means of light chains.
Tips for using nipple clamps. For beginners in the world of BDSM, we recommend buying clips with soft latex pads – they are the least traumatic. Any objects that constrict the blood flow should not be left on the nipples for more than 20 minutes – this will lead to a violation of the blood supply and loss of sensitivity. Do not try to pull, jerk off the clamps, sharply pull the chain – the principle of safety is at the heart of sado-maso games.
7. Adhesive tape for binding
Soft wide tape is used instead of handcuffs or for total immobilization during mummification. Strong synthetic tape holds well, does not stick to the hair, is removed painlessly, leaving no traces. Special intimate tape can be used on the skin of the face and genitals. Bright colors will enliven the atmosphere in the bedroom and help create a fetish image.
How to use adhesive tape for binding:
Tie your partner’s hands/feet, fix him in an unusual position for sex.
Several layers of scotch tape will replace the eye mask.
Completely wrap your partner’s body, making it impossible for him to move.
Stick small pieces of tape on the chest and genitals-the outfit for the fetish party is ready.
Tips for using adhesive tape for binding. Choose a wide (at least 5 cm) tape – this will not twist and will not cut into the skin with active movements. Do not replace the gag with duct tape. Minor interference with breathing through the nose is extremely dangerous for a partner whose mouth is tightly sealed.
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8. Gynecological mirror (dilator)
Not every girl will appreciate a specific device for a frank medical examination , but this toy will give an unforgettable experience to a brave couple. Mirrors are made of hypoallergenic materials-steel and plastic, have rounded edges. Their introduction and use as a tool of love joys is absolutely safe. This is an element of medical fetish, it allows you to implement new scenarios. For the first experience, a one-time option is suitable, and if you like it, take a metal one.
How to use a gynecological mirror:
Relax your partner by giving her an erotic massage. If the girl is tense, the introduction of the instrument will be unpleasant.
Create an appropriate environment, complement the image for the medical game with other accessories – a suit, gloves.
For a better glide, apply a lubricant to the outside of the expander flaps.
During the examination, adjust the degree of opening of the vagina with a locking screw.
Try to additionally stimulate your partner’s cervix with your fingers or a vibrator with the mirror open.
Tips for using the expander. The girl may not be ready to let you “so deep” into herself. To gently prepare your partner for the mirror, practice manual stimulation, fisting. Apply high-quality lubricants with a dense texture that will ensure a comfortable introduction.
9. A set of BDSM devices
Manufacturers of sex products make up sets at their own discretion. Most often, themed sets include: a collar, handcuffs, gag, whip or flogger, artificial phallus or anal plug. A set of accessories allows you to immediately plunge into the world of unknown pleasures and try out different scenarios in bed. It is more profitable to buy a set, it is cheaper than the tools included in it separately.
How to use a set of BDSM devices:
Individual elements of the set are unobtrusively used during the usual love joys.
Arrange a full-fledged session with your partner with binding, blindfolding and spanking.
Switch roles and experience what it’s like to be subordinate.
Ask your partner to wear a collar or anal plug discreetly under their clothes in a public place.
Tips for using a set of BDSM devices. Huge all-in-one kits are very convenient. The set allows you to determine your preferences and move in the chosen direction, whether it is sadism, humiliation or a combination of them. Pay attention to the quality and strength of the materials from which the items are made.
10. Mini vibrator
Miniature devices with a powerful motor look very different from their giant realistic counterparts. The mini vibrator easily fits in a lady’s purse, will make a company on a trip, and its neutral shape does not cause associations with sex toys. However, such kids are able to surprise with a strong vibration and variability of application.
How to use a mini vibrator:
With the help of a vibrating finger, stimulate the clitoris or anus of your partner during vaginal penetration.
Vibrato perfect for fondling of the penis and scrotum. Press the vibrator to your cheek during oral stimulation, the bright climax of the partner will not keep you waiting.
Massage your partner’s chest, neck, and groin in search of new erogenous zones.
Webropol suitable for invisible long wearing.
Tease the bound partner with a vibrating toy, increase his arousal, but do not let him experience an orgasm. Or vice versa, arrange the torture of multiple orgasms without interruptions.
Tips for using a mini vibrator. A small vibrating accessory is suitable for novice users of adult products. When choosing, do not chase the number of speeds, you will still include 2-3 favorite ones. Do not try to take the most powerful model – many people find excessively intense vibration ticklish or unpleasant.
Any couple should try BDSM games. It is not necessary to cause pain, you can experiment with psychological dominance and submission. It is interesting to change into Themed costumes, try on the role of a subordinate or dominant. Accessories only complement the invented scenarios, help to bring them to life. Many things from 10 sex toys for BDSM are suitable for vanilla sex, and just make intimacy a little more piquant and attractive.
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And remember – Chuck Rhoades and Wendy Rhoades used all these devices both agreed to. Discuss with your partner you preferences and you will find best suitable toys and sex games.